I used to think I was always moving forward.
In many ways, I still am.
Iโve moved countries, switched paths, tried new things, shared openly, failed publicly.
I practice kriyas every day. I write. I film. I learn. I build. I create. I stretch.
So yesโtechnically, Iโm growing.
But if Iโm being honestโฆ lately, something feels off.
Like Iโm movingโbut maybe not far.
Like Iโm busyโbut not bold.
Like Iโm pretending Iโm on the edgeโwhile actually keeping it safe and manageable.
Because hereโs the uncomfortable truth Iโve had to sit with:
Iโve built a new comfort zone. And it wears a very convincing mask. It looks like growth.
Growth, But Make It Predictable
I used to fear being seen. Now I vlog.
I used to feel self-conscious in FPV. Now I post my crashes and mistakes with pride.
I used to keep ideas in my head. Now I blog every day.
But you know what else I do?
I stay in the patterns that Iโm already good at.
I keep doing the things I know I can handle.
I say I want to improve storytellingโฆ but I still shy away from the vulnerable parts.
I say I want to launch digital productsโฆ but I hesitate to say โHey, would you like to buy this?โ
I call these things โworks in progress.โ
But if I look closelyโฆ theyโre actually comfort zones Iโve redecorated with the label โcoming soon.โ
Thatโs not growth. Thatโs maintenance.
Discipline Can Be a Hiding Place Too
Iโve learned that even discipline can become a shelter.
Waking up early. Meditating. Writing. Practicing.
Itโs all good. It grounds me. It helps me.
But it also gives me a sense of progress.
Even when Iโm avoiding the real work:
- Speaking more boldly
- Asking for support
- Pitching
- Creating for connection, not just output
- Taking creative risks where failure feels possible, not just visible
Iโve gotten really good at sharing the โfigured-outโ parts.
But what about the raw, in-between moments where Iโm still messy, unsure, or afraid?
Thatโs the actual edge.
Thatโs where the next version of me is waiting.
Itโs Not Just Me. Itโs Science.
I learned later that this isnโt just a feelingโitโs how our brains work.
We automate. We seek efficiency. Once something becomes familiar, it becomes safeโeven if it looks like growth from the outside.
Psychologists call this the comfort zone model.
Beyond that zone is the stretch zoneโthe space where growth happens. But itโs also where resistance shows up.
Even more interesting? Neuroscience shows that the brain rewards us for being productive, not necessarily for being honest with ourselves. It likes repetition, familiarity, and energy conservation.
So we build routines, we master tasks, we stay busyโand we call it growth.
Because on paper, it looks like progress.
But deep down, we know: itโs getting too easy.
Yeah, Iโve set up camp there more than onceโcalled it โprogress,โ hung up curtains, made it feel like home.
But I knew. I wasnโt stretching anymore. Just circling.
The Question Iโm Sitting With
So here it isโno bow, no final insight, just what Iโm sitting with lately:
What have I been calling growthโฆ thatโs really just safety in disguise?
That question has been echoing in my head all week.
It doesnโt feel like guilt. It feels like a mirror.
A reminder that comfort zones arenโt bad.
But staying in them while calling it expansion? Thatโs a kind of self-abandonment.
Iโm not writing this because Iโve figured it out.
Iโm writing it because I havenโt.
Because thisโthis post right hereโis me stepping out.
Let Me Ask You Too
If youโre still here, reading this far: thank you.
Can I ask you something?
Whatโs the comfort zone youโve been hiding in, even if it looks like growth from the outside?
You donโt have to answer out loud. But if you doโIโd love to hear it.
This isnโt a motivational post. Itโs a wake-up tap on the shoulder.
For me. For you. For anyone doing the work but maybe dodging the real edge.
Letโs not get so good at evolving that we forget how to change.
Not just improveโtransform.
Even if itโs uncomfortable.
Especially if it is.








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