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Have you ever wondered how much of who you are today was shaped by someone else’s belief in you?

Or maybe—someone’s doubt in you?

We talk a lot about mindset, motivation, and self-discipline. But here’s a subtle force that may have been quietly shaping your path all along: expectations. Not just your own, but the ones other people had about you.

The Unseen Power of Belief

There’s a fascinating psychological concept called the Pygmalion Effect. It suggests that when someone expects you to do well, you often rise to meet that expectation. It’s like they shine a spotlight on your potential, and for the first time, maybe you catch a glimpse of it too.

On the flip side, there’s the Golem Effect. When someone believes you’re going to fail or fall short, that expectation can slowly seep in. You start to doubt yourself. Maybe your confidence thins out a bit. And little by little, you hold back—without even noticing.

Both effects work quietly. But they work.

So Let Me Ask You—Gently:

• Can you recall someone in your life who expected more from you, in the best way?
• Did that belief lift you up, even when you didn’t quite believe in yourself yet?
• Or have you had to dig your way out from under someone’s low expectations?
• Do you ever catch yourself living a little smaller because of an old story someone else handed you?
• And maybe most of all: Whose voice is shaping how you show up right now?

Noticing the Subtle Stuff

It took me a while to realize some of the ceilings in my life weren’t real. They were inherited. Built out of someone else’s doubt, or fear, or protectiveness disguised as realism.

Maybe you’ve been there too.

But awareness changes things. Once you see how the Golem Effect might be playing out in your life, you can decide to stop carrying it. And maybe, just maybe, you can start writing your own expectations instead.

And If You’re in a Position to Influence Others…

You might not even realize the power you have.

If you’re a teacher, a parent, a friend, a coach, or a leader—people are listening to your tone. Watching your eyes. Absorbing your belief, or your doubt.

And sometimes, a simple “I see this in you” can quietly change someone’s life.

On the flip side, even well-intentioned criticism or skepticism can clip wings before they spread.

We all need to be reminded: your expectations carry weight.

A Little Honesty From Me

Some of the best things I ever did weren’t because I was sure of myself. It was because someone said, “You got this” at just the right time. And I believed them—just enough to take a step forward.

Other times, I let doubt settle in like fog. Not always mine. But I carried it anyway.

And yeah, I still catch myself doing that sometimes.

A Quiet Invitation

You’re not the sum of other people’s fears. But maybe you’ve been carrying a few. Maybe it’s time to lay those down.

So if you feel like it, take a moment. Ask yourself:

“What belief about myself have I been holding that was never really mine?”

And if the answer stings a little—you’re not alone.

Then, if there’s room in your day, maybe ask this too:

“Is there someone I could believe in today, the way I once needed?”

Because the Pygmalion Effect isn’t just about personal growth. It’s about how we see, support, and stretch each other.

And that’s how you make it work for you—and with a bit of grace, for the people around you too.